Okay so I thought that I would be totally cute and write out the ABC's of being a mom. You know a type of things I have learned list. So I sat down to write it, and couldn't come up with anything besides Diaper wipes for D. You know how you use diaper wipes for everything? That's all I could come up with. Good job Court, only 25 more letters to go!
I have been at this mothering thing for 3 1/2 years now, you would have thought I would have learned something! So I got to thinking and I came up with a few little things. Hopefully some of you moms out there can relate.
1. No matter how confident you are, no matter how much you think you have it, something will change that will throw you completely off. You think that you finally have a good sleeping pattern down, they will start teething or get sick and throw it all off. Finally found a food they will eat? Next time you serve it, they won't even touch it. Kids change their minds all the time. So adjust. Roll with the punches.
2. Make sure to show them you love them. You would think this should go without saying, but it does get fairly easy to get caught up with daily life. Work, running the house, errands tend to get in the way. There is nothing I love more than snuggling with my boys and I know that soon they wont let me, so I have to cherish this time I have now.
3. Sure I can try to carve time out for me, I can try to get someone to watch the boys so I can catch a nap. But the reality is I can't sleep. This is something I still struggle with on a daily basis, but wake up (pardon the pun) and smell the coffee. You pretty much have to be on death's door to get a good amount of uninterrupted sleep.
4. Yes the constant need of assistance from you for someone else may be annoying. But simply remind yourself that soon they won't want you to be around at all, and that helps lighten the load.
5. In complete contradiction to #3, you have to either make time for yourself or learn to savor the little moments of time you have to yourself. Even if your "time" is running errands alone, just enjoy the peace and quiet and be thankful that you don't have to make those several potty breaks while trying to get them done.
6. Just have fun. Play. Messes can be cleaned up, most of the mundane chores can wait. Trust me you will get more joy out of hearing those giggles and seeing their smiles than you will vacuuming the floor or loading up the dishwasher.